Be yourself, be the twist and be the person you always dreamed off

 Most often times in life, we go through life thinking about what to do, what not to do, how people see us, what people will say and in the process, limiting ourselves to circumstances that don't only mar us but break us as well. We all are special and unique in our different ways, different faces, different families, different dreams, different aspirations, different characters, different ideas, different mentality, different strengths, different weaknesses and different drive.

Living one's self according to another's radar is simply putting "square pegs in a round hole" your idea doesn't have to match up or fit in with the crowd, so long it is productive, "LIGHT IT UP". Living life and keeping your eyes on your intentions and goals rather than outside distraction is a sure way to achieve your goals. 

In life, it's really all about making use of what life throws at you, turning a negative situation into a positive one, disregarding obstacles and fears and forging on. Doing your own thing and doing you is what matters and not what the other person is doing, what works for someone else might not work for you, you know why? It's simple, you're different and unique in your own way, your strength differs, your weakness differs and you are "YOU". A lot of people have great ideas and innovations, but the fear of making mistakes or being laughed at stops them from allowing their ideas to " Sprout Up". How then can you achieve your goals if you're scared of making mistakes? Mistakes in themselves make the greatest stories. "Most great ideas are born out of mistakes."

Do you have an idea you want to sell to the world? Don't sleep on it, be real about that idea. Doggedness and focus are all you need to start up that idea. 

A lot of people go through life, feeling less of themselves, settling for less and adapting to situations that are limiting to what they are made of. You are better and more, you have it in you, to do whatever you set your mind to do and also the will power to be successful at it, only if you make an attempt and build on that idea buried inside of you. 

How do you intend to grow, when you don't plant yourself? It's not going to happen, you are just like a seed, which without being planted, will remain a seed and never become a plant. So that YOU in your idea will remain a seed if you don't act on it.

There are a lot of individuals, with great minds and great dreams, wandering around and unplanted. Unplanted in this sense means, doing what everyone does, following the normal trend of life in the society they live in, bending to mere ideologies when inside them, there's a greater being who's ready to be out, with just a move. 

You can be whosoever you want to be and more if you only allow it. You are a simple lady growing up and all you desire is to get married, have kids and be a wife because other ladies are doing it. What makes you think, you can't be more than that? What makes you think that's the only thing you'd be good at doing?

Years ago, I had this friend, tall, beautiful and smart. We were sitting, having a chit chat about random things and I asked her this question, "what are your plans for your life"? The answer she gave was both shocking and surprising. She said, her plans were to find a man, get married, have kids and be a full housewife. I was like, is this lady for real or pulling my legs, funny but true, that's the sad reality today, people limiting themselves to what they feel is the best thing for them or what society feels is the right thing for them to do.

Conforming yourself to a particular situation or adapting to it because of your fears, scepticism and low self-esteem is in itself, a "Self Assassination" You can break the trend, you can change the rules, you can change the plot and be the voice, be the twist in the turn of things concerning the regular way of life.

Mistakes in a person's life are inevitable and they will always be part of a person's life story and what shapes a person. Without making a mistake, how do you expect to grow and better yourself? How do you intend to be the master of an idea without, making a mistake? 

Back then in school, during one of my English language classes, a particular topic was introduced and I felt it would be easier to conquer like every other topic has come across in my English language class. So, after the class, the teacher gave out a class work on this particular topic, I answered the questions according to how I understood it, and guess what? I failed everything woefully! I was dumbfounded, stunned and shocked and you know what I did? I cried! I was unhappy, I had a sullen look all through the day. I asked myself, What went wrong? What didn't I do right? What I'm I missing? Why did I fail? all the while, crying inside and feeling restless. In that mood I found myself, I decided to revisit that topic and go through it, to understand where I wasn't getting it right and why I failed, I studied the topic over and over again, went over it several times until it got stuck and when the same topic was given as a test in the class, I did well and passed the test excellently. Ended well right? That's what determination can do, it took me to fail the test woefully for me to master that particular topic. The point here is, the mistake came first and that mistake prompted the determination, the drive, the zeal needed to do better and be great at that which seemed difficult. That sweet feeling you get, basking in the euphoria of your success after a failure is indeed one thing that is fulfilling.

In life, no one is assured of anything and everything one does always involves taking risks. Putting your ideas to work without fear, will definitely make a huge change in your life.

Moreso, we all have different gifts and your gift is unique to you, everyone has a purpose in life, Mr A's purpose will always be different from Mr B's purpose. Each purpose is unique to the owner. Bank on what you know and have, don't let it go to waste, that it is not working for others doesn't mean it would not work for you. 

What if you would be the change? What if it changes with you?

The opinion of others shouldn't be a determinant of what you should do for yourself. Allowing people to determine your steps most times can be misleading as well as disastrous. Living life on your own terms sometimes saves you from a lot of complicated situations. 

Take your baby steps, learn to walk it through, make your mistakes, fall and rise again, until the goal is achieved and the medal is won. Fear will always creep in but always tell yourself, you can. Just like a little child, learning how to walk, falling down several times, crying and all but still won't stop learning how to walk till the child masters it and can walk without falling.

This applies to you as a person, go out and take your baby steps in that idea, stay consistent and positive, don't give up on it, until you're a master at it.

Often times, we allow procrastination to derail us in the things we ought to do, to better ourselves and before you know it, we are too choked up with a lot and too exhausted to do these things. If it takes you learning a skill to add to your knowledge, do it, to enrich yourself. Be intentional about what you plan to do and make the move in time. 

Time we all keep saying is going, but we are also going. If you don't take that step now, you might not be able to do it later. Time is moving and we are in synchronization with its movement. When there's a breach in this relationship, between "You and Time", then a lot will go awry and then imbalance sets in.

Wake up and live your life. Hold tight to your idea and set it in motion today, make yourself count, get rid of the doubts, side talks, fears and societal criticism. You can do a lot if you want to. Stay rigid with your decisions and focus on it, don't settle for less because your mates are settling for less, don't deprive yourself of becoming more and great because society says so.

Be You, live your best life, be passionate about becoming more, drive yourself hard and most of all, "BE THE TWIST."